I don’t know if I am a “dater.” I believe in building a friendship with my fellow Christian guys with a natural occurrence of an intimate relationship evolving, whether it be only a strong friendship or a courtship. With all this said, one day one of my male (Christian) friend mentioned that sleeping with the person you are dating is not a big deal. In my mind I yelled, “Deal Breaker!” For those who do not know what deal breaker means, it is defined roughly as, “the catch that a particular individual cannot overlook and ultimately outweighs any redeeming quality the individual may possess.”
So ya, even though he was a great guy who was totally talented and an awesome acquaintance. Because of that belief that he held and the practice that he had a habit of doing. I decided the friendship had to be broken. And I had no intention on trying to convince him to change his views, he knew my views. He knew that I do not believe in being physically intimate before marriage.
That was my deal breaker. You may say I am extreme, but I really don’t think so. God outlined in the scriptures “Deal Breakers,” Some of them are identified in the following scriptures:
1 Corinthians 5:11 (NIV),
“But now I am writing you that you must not associate with anyone who calls himself a brother but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or a slanderer, a drunkard or a swindler. With such a man do not even eat.”
2 Timothy 3:1-5
“But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with them.”
We all have our struggles and issues that we have to constantly discipline ourselves to let go of bad habits, behaviors, and mindsets. However we are definitely on shaky ground when we know what is right but give into our desires repeatedly without a repentant heart. God told us whenever we find our Brothers and Sisters behaving in such manner, to depart from their company.
So are you holding on to the wrong relationships?
I love your blog, I'm happy God led me to it. I liked this post, i've been SO frustrated because it seems lately that all guys want is sex and cant even accept that you want to stay pure not even for yourself but for GOD because its HIS temple. It's definitely frustrating but i'm asking Him for strength because I'm now judging every guy I meet and putting a HUGE guard up.
ReplyDeleteThank you Tawana, yes it is very hard, but a guy that really respects you will wait. I have alot of men like that in my life that are either waiting for marriage. So don't feed into the lie!
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