I think Kayne West’s Song is open for interpretation, I am in by no means trying to interpret the song. However I use this song to illustrate what many people have gone through which is “love” that consumes all their time. Time that is usually spent with friends, family, activities, and etc. Also constant time spent checking up with each other over the phone, text messages, Facebook, Myspace, and et…I call it virtual stalking. Constant accountability of your time in a friendship or courtship isn’t normal, it is unhealthy. Sometime soon on this blog I will get more in depth over it; however the videos that I posted cover the topic.
Just recently, (past few weeks), I met this guy and we exchanged contact information to hang out the following weekend. Shortly after giving the guy my number he started to text me literally every hour. In my mind, I said to myself this is crazy. And the text messages were not pertaining to anything serious either. It brought me back to the time years ago when I dated this guy, whom I discuss in my book, “The Christian Lady’s Dating Constitution: A Memorandum Addressed to Teens, Their Parents, And Young Adults.” I was very young then, and the guy I was dating back then did the same exact thing this guy started to do. That boyfriend called me all the time, texted me all the time, and wanted to be with me during all my free time. So eventually it got to the point where I didn’t see my family often and seldom saw my friends unless if we bumped into each other. I thought that kind of behavior was cute and normal back then, now I know it is very unhealthy.
Your love interest should be incorporated into your time with your family, friends, and other loved ones. He/She should not take over the time you spend with your family, friends, and loved ones. You may say to yourself that you spend enough time with your family and friends, but remember that they are permanent fixtures in your life. Someone who is entering your life should not take over the time of people who have contributed to the person that you are and who you know truly loves you. Trust is earned over time and love is displayed, grown, and strengthened through different seasons in a relationshp. A newbie should not be replacing time that you normally spend with permanent fixtures in your life.
If you are in a relationship, Take ten minutes and ask yourself if you are being imprisoned in a “Love Lockdown.”